I started dabbling with dating at around 15 years old. Over the last almost 10 years, I’ve learned so much about life, love, and relationships from the view of a single woman. So, after much thinking and praying, I’ve compiled a list of 5 things I know now that I wish I knew at 15.

It’s not enough to like each other. It’s so much more complicated than that.
1. We make it complicated.
2. Communication helps with that
The heart is deceiving, so what’s love got to do with it?
1. You can talk yourself into/out of loving anyone and anything
2. It’s alright to be a sexual being. There’s a sin to be sexual. Don’t act on it. Go to Godly counsel. Talk it out. Be honest.
3. Ensure that you go into any situation with perceptive eyes and not desiring eyes: saves a world of heartache.
There’s nothing wrong with you: being you, having standards, knowing what you want.
1. Who says you have to be in relationships?
2. What’s wrong with singleness again? You can have friends…
3. There are miles on your heart… Be careful how far you drive it… it may get callous
The answer isn’t Dick/Coochie!
1. You’re sad, fix it. You’re happy, enjoy it. You’re bored, cure it.
2. The angry black woman doesn’t need to be dicked down. She needs to be heard.
3. Remember the gateway to your soul is often between your legs… guard it.
It’s nice to be desired, but it’s unparalleled to be respected.
1. You can be cordial with ex’s if there’s mutual respect
2. If you know you’re beautiful, what does it matter
3. Network and community are more valuable than perception.

While there’s much to be said about relationships, the journey through your love life is an individualized one. don’t believe the Lord wants us to endure the ups and downs of romance. There is a certain level of ambiguity and unknown to every relationship because everyone’s paths are different, but knowing what the Word says and applying it to your boundaries and desires will protect you from years of hurt, pain, and sorrow.