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Hello All,
I hope you all are doing well. The new video today is all about my curly hair weave. It is the same hair as before, but an upgraded look. I hope you all enjoy. I also have a video coming very soon for my heat damaged curly girls. Thanks again for visiting, and until next time, stay blessed.
Kandid Kayla
Hi loves,
So as the summer has come to an end a lot has happened. Per some of the vlogs that are out, you all are aware that I did a BUNCH of traveling this summer. There are a few more of my adventures to go up, but it has taken me a while to edit everything. With this being said, the semester has started, and with this being my senior year, I will be a bit irregular with the posts until I get a set schedule. I’m looking to post twice a week, but I’m still working out my schedule. As for content, I will be coming out with some content concerning hair, particularly damaged hair. I will be gearing this towards people with heat, health, and color damage. Also, I will be putting some lookbook type posts up with some pre-fall fashions, so be looking out for those. There’s also a Facebook page now! If you like the page, you will get access to the posts and maybe even some live events that allow for you to stay connected to all the content that’s coming out. I hope you all had a great summer, and can’t wait for you to see what’s coming next!
KandidKayla
Hey Guys,
The third summer Vlog is up and ready to be seen. It's more of our Destin, Florida fun. I hope you enjoy!
Hello All,
Below is the second summer Vlog that features some fun in Destin, Florida. I hope you all enjoy.
Hello All,
I hope everyone has had a great summer. I know I have so far. Below is the first of many summer vlogs of my adventures. I hope you enjoy.
See you in my next post!
Hi Guys,
I have had this hair in for a little over a month. I have half of the 20, 18, and 16 inch bundles with a 14 inch closure in my head. I enjoy this hair so far, although it is a bit challenging to manage. I will have a hair routine video coming soon. As for products, I recommend using the products listed below. I hope you enjoy, thumbs up, comment, and subscribe.
Uncle Funky's Daughter Curly Magic Curl Stimulator http://www.target.com/p/uncle-funky-s...
Argan Oil http://www.sallybeauty.com/argan-oil-...
Avocado oil http://www.walmart.com/ip/44708551?wm...
Chi Silk Infusion http://www.walmart.com/ip/CHI-Silk-In...
Creme of Nature Style and Shine Foaming Mousse http://www.walmart.com/ip/Creme-of-Na...
Creme of Nature with Argan Oil Moisture and Shine Shampoo http://www.walmart.com/ip/Creme-of-Na...
Creme of Nature Strength &Shine Leave-In Conditioner http://www.walmart.com/ip/Creme-Of-Na...
Hello everyone. I know I haven’t written in a while, a long while. I had to take a hiatus as school began to get real, to say the least. But as a caveat for you all, I plan to make up for all of that. My goal for the next coming months, as classes are done, I plan to put out more frequent content as well as releasing more types of content that reflect my love of hair, music, etc.: lookbooks, hauls, makeup tutorials, Q&As, vlogs, and many more.
With that being said, in the video below, you will find many plus size and skinny girl friendly fashions. These were primarily put together to cater to those who are a bit curvier, and even in the in between stage, as I am. I hope you all enjoy! Comment below if you have any questions.
Hello all,
Thank you for visiting my page again. Sorry I’ve been gone for a while. I am a college student, so to say the least, it’s been a bit rough. Nonetheless, I’m back again with something new. Today, as the title suggests is about seeing life for its beauty.
Recently, I posted the following statement,“My road is not for everyone. Sometimes it leaves you alone. This is just because you’re alone, doesn’t mean you’re lonely.” This statement is a response to the never-ending questions about my dating life, but it sparked a question in me. Am I happy with where I am? By all definitions of the early 20s, am I living? I have no boyfriend. I don’t party much. I’m not beat to the gods on a daily basis. I have few Instagram followers and don’t respond to DMs like that. I have all of five super close friends. My text messages are about as dry as the Sahara Dessert. Then I noticed, the question is not am I living, but rather, by whose definition am I living. No, I’m not living as the movies or stereotypical definitions would define my life to be lived, but I am living my own definition, a definition of beauty.
In the culture that we live in, so heavily populated with stereotypes and false definitions of self worth, that we’ve gotten away from the true beauty of honest self worth. Which brings up the question, are we seeing it [life] for anything less than beautiful? As we’ve established before, my life doesn’t have those things that people would expect, but my life is still beautiful. My definition of how my life should be lived is defined by my ability to grow and expand both my knowledge and my opportunities. Even though those opportunities aren’t in the areas that people would like for them to be in, I am growing and learning concerning my schooling, my place in God, what I can bring to the people around me, and how I plan to live my life in the future. To me that is beautiful.
In Matthew 14, the Bible talks about one of the most famous stories of Jesus, when Peter walked on water. The short story version essentially says that Peter saw a man, Jesus, walking on the water in the distance. He asked the man if hew was Jesus, and if so to call him out on the water. Jesus called him out and he walked out on the water. When he realized what he was doing, he began to sink as he shifted his focus off of Jesus. Then after asking for his help, Jesus took Peter and they walked together. The moral of this story is to keep your eyes on Jesus. The pointI’m trying to make is that there was beauty in Peter’s walk. The boat was safe, and he did begin to sink while he was out there, but Peter walked on water.
The same is in our lives. We may stumble or go against the grain, in stepping out and living our lives the way we want to, but there is beauty in it. Whether you’re living in a suburban apartment with three kids and going to school or in a penthouse suite as a stay at home dad, in God, your life is beautiful. So the moral of my story is, I’m seeing the beauty in my life, all of it. Are you?
Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord. Plans to prosper you and not to harm you; plans to give you a hope and a future.”
Ecclesiastes 3:11 “He has made everything beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the human heart; yet no one can fathom what God has done from beginning to end.
Today is the four year anniversary of the day I started my journey to understanding love. On this day four days ago, I realized that there was a tingling feeling that I hadn’t experienced before concerning someone. As thatexperience was good to have, it wasn’t meant to be forever, and I had to move on. Continuing with the theme ofout with the old, in with the new, our topic today is about accepting the experience of the old and moving forward into what is new.
On Tuesday, I briefly discussed how God takes us through things to grow us. In evaluating those things, I made it seem as though it’s all fine and dandy when you have come on the other side. You can give God all the glory, but I neglected to talk about the process when you’re going through. Trust, it’s not as fine or dandy. Going through it is rough. In relation to the story above, I can thank God for being able to experience falling in love, but going through it was not as easy. The thing that no one tells you about falling in love is that it is typically not easy. It is a process of constantly weighing your thoughts versus your feelings, your emotions versus your personality, and your view versus your perception. In all the great love songs they talk about the butterfly feelings, but never the hard stuff like allowing someone in and learning to accept someone’s faults. Going through all of this was a struggle. As suggested before, this love didn’t work out, and with that came heartache. In going through it, it was hard to see God in all of it. Thankfully, I did. Every time I was brought to tears, he was not only there to comfort me, but to help me see the hindsight.
In seeing the hindsight, I can take that experience for what it was, a chance to understand the feeling and action of love, and move forward. In most painful situations, it is easy to sit in what was and stay down. In the case of situations concerning the heart it is easy to wallow in the what ifs, but we need not forget that God has a plan, that doesn’t stop at the heartache. Think about it, if we stop at the pain we would never get anywhere. I wouldn’t be writing this blog. You wouldn’t be reading this blog. You would never get to experience the greater that’s directly attached to the pain that doesn’t last. In every situation in life I think there is something to be learned, but most importantly, in painful situations, there is something to be gained. You can gain patience, understanding, clarity, a spiritual gift, or even physical blessings.
In my case I gained perception. My perception changed. I had to experience the physical human to human manifestation of love and heartache to see the comparison of how God longs for us and loves us. Had it not been for the pain, I would have continued to take his love for granted.
“But, Mi’Kayla you have seen the reason why you went through it, so you can better move on. What about closure?” you may ask.
I think there is something strong about someone who can move forward without closure. I am not that person. So, to that my answer to you would be to ask God, and he will answer. On the other hand God has not called us to be a people oppressed. Many times, we can obsess over our pain and miss the real reason for the pain, and that’s growth. The only way to grow from situations are to move forward from them.
Moving forward is not forgetting about what has happened. On the contrary, it’s taking that experience with you as a part of who you are becoming. As I discussed on Tuesday, we are constantly changing when we experience God. Since God is the author of our lives, even in the bad times, we are growing daily. This growth is only truly happening when we take these experiences with us.
To take the experiences with us we must first learn something from the experience. In my case I learned a lot of things about love, myself, God, and my relationship with God.
Second, you must understand who you are in God despite and in consideration of the situation. It is so easy to start seeing yourself in a negative light when you are going through pain, but you must remember that you are God’s, made in his image, and adopted by the blood of Christ. With that, there is nothing that can separate you from his love.
Third, you must accept the situation for what it is. It is easy sometimes to fantasize or exaggerate a situation so that the memories don’t hurt as bad, but acknowledging and accepting the situation for truth as part of your life is the only way you will ever come to terms with the situation.
Lastly, you must continue with your life. For me, I made myself more readily available to new and other experiences to keep me busy, because I’m not really to potentially fall in love again. For you, it may be just stepping out on faith in the next venture of your life.
Yes, it will still hurt to get up and move forward, but everyday it hurts a little less and less. Until one day, you wake up and can thank God from the other side.
Proverbs 3:5-6 “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.”
Psalms 34:18 “The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit.”
John 5:8 “Then Jesus said to him, ‘Get up! Pick up your mat and walk.’”
Out with the old, in with the new.
This week on the blog I’d like to focus on embracing, experiencing, and acknowledging the transformations and growth within our lives, hence the title. This will focus on looking at some things within our lives that have changed, some for the good, some for the bad, and some for the great.
Today’s topic is transformation Tuesday. As #transformationTuesday suggests, this is the evaluation of who I was to who I am now. In looking at this topic, I wanted to focus on the me of the past versus me now. In my transformation over the years, I’ve done a complete 180º flip.
I think back when I first came into my teen years, age thirteen, and me now, on the other side of the teenage years. I was a lost cause. Fashion wise, I wore gaucho cropped pants and wedged heel with disgusting wire frame glasses, and I thought I was cute. I was beginning to fill out and I was awkwardly too curvy to fit the Abercrombie styles. Emotionally, I was so sensitive. I always thought that everything that everyone did was to directly affect me. Socially, I had crushes… like talk behind their back, but not to their face crushes. I was always scared, and couldn’t do much of anything adventurous. Spiritually, I was lukewarm. I wanted God, but only because I wanted acceptance. If God didn’t promise acceptance, I wasn’t promising God. Thank God for growth!
Now, fashion wise, I am pretty fashion relevant. Fashion has gratefully moved toward full figured women. I would also never dare to grab toward some cropped gaucho pants either. Emotionally, I am confident in my stance in who I am. Socially, I’m still a bit of an introvert, but I am willing to say what I will. I also don’t typically have crushes. I run to adventure and find boredom in routine. Spiritually, I’ve grown no doubt. Jesus is my God until the end of the age, regardless of what people think.
I have changed so much in such little time. It’s only been seven years. Thankfully, I’ve grown. My interests have grown. The ways I have expressed myself has grown. Who I am has grown. The things that God has taken me through have really gone to shape who I am and what I do. I don’t want to be anything like who or what I was. Though, I would not change the process.
It is truly a testament that as I can look back I don’t see the same person I was. It is important, that you don’t see the same person either. Whether you are thirteen, or thirty, who you were five years ago, or even yesterday, shouldn’t be the same person you are today. If you have experienced God, which we do everyday, we have to be changed in some way. We may be changed only a little in that we are one step closer or farther from God. We may be changed a lot in that we quit smoking or fell in love. Either way, we have been changed and it is important that we thank God for those changes. In my case, those changes were good and have started to catapult me into who God wants me to be. With that, I thank God daily. In your case, those changes may be the difference in the person you want to be and the person God wants you to be. If that’s the case, you should reevaluate where you are and who you’re becoming.
For the next days, I urge you to take a look at who you were and who you are. If you need to write it down, do so. Admire yourself and the parts that have been changed. Look at the good, bad, ugly, and great. Thank God for the good, and question how you might change the bad to great.
Hebrews 13:8 “Jesus Christ is the same yesterday and today andforever.”
Isaiah 43:19 “See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland.”
Jeremiah 29:11 “‘For I know the plans I have for you,’ declares the Lord, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future.’”
